I am by no means a touchy feely person and I seriously go days and weeks at a time without a single hug. Ever since I was little hugs have not been that enjoyable to me. There is one home video where I'm two years old and I have a playmate over and she tries to hug me and I start screaming like I've been shot in the foot! Of course, my mom spanked me enough that I had to stop doing that, but my natural response is to scream bloody murder. Even now as I was beginning to write this, Katelind came in and gave me a hug from behind and I screamed just like I used to when I was a baby. It was a natural scream from the depths, I didn't even have to try. I just don't enjoy my bubble being entered! Especially from behind or without my permission!!!! Talk about SCARY! The only hugs that I partake in are ones that are started by someone else and sometimes I find a way to dodge that situation as well. Hugging has so many opportunities to become awkward if you ask me. If you don't have chemistry with someone, even girls, the hug is going to take a turn for the worst. Like when your cheeks end up touching because both the heads go the same way, or when the shoulders hit at the exact same height and the hugging is all wrong. Somebody needs to have their shoulders higher or the awkward moment is going to be substantial. I also got a hug from a boy that had really bad B.O. and my shoulder smelled disgusting for the rest of the day. I poured anti-bacterial all over my shoulder, but it didn't even make a dent in the situation! I don't do bad smells. I don't do awkward moments well, either. Hence, why I never hug. I am also not made that way so it's not at the for front of my mind. When I'm dating someone I think to hug, because it's natural to me, but with everyone else it's like a horror filled moment waiting to be had. So as a single girl my hugging life is next to zero. I think of all the things that could go wrong and that's why I avoid hugging altogether. I've never thought twice about it before until now.
A boy came up to me in the library today and said plainly "Can I please have a hug?". My stomach kind of dropped a little…oh no….I hope this doesn't go bad. It didn't go bad, it was fine, but he took a deep breath and told me to do the same. He said it was theraputic and would keep the mental health going strong. BALONEY was all I thought. NO WAY. But I got back to the room and did a little research and so many doctors says that he is right! Apparently hugging is very healthy and people who are hugged on a regular basis are twice as less likely to have mental health issues. Not only that, it lowers blood pressure and stress! Who knew?! Not me! I never think about it! There was also a study on holding hands and stress and it showed that people who hold hands are much less stressed than people who don't! But apparently holding hands with a stranger does not help, it has to be someone you love. So Katelind's hand will hopefully be at my disposal on a daily basis. And Macy has the best hugs in the entire world, so I'll have to swing by her room daily. It's not like if you go out and hug a random person you will stay sane. This hug must come from someone you really care about. And that kind of hugging does worlds of good to a person! If there's any opportunity I find to stay sane, I'm going to do it! Even if it means going against my natural tendency to stay far away from other people. Because staying sane is pretty important I would say. I am super stressed all the time, and I NEVER hug, so maybe that's my problem!!!!!! But I'm definitely not going to go hug joe blow off the street, because my hugs are special and the germ factor also comes in. When you are closer to someone the germs don't seem to matter as much. It's like a miracle. Love…love even makes bad smells smell good…if that isn't a miracle, I don't know what is!!!!!
Anyway, I just want to make sure that all my friends out there go and get a hug today. Preferably not from a creeper, because they may get a little too much happy from it. Make sure it's not a sicko and someone that you care about. Let's keep it PG here, people. We aren't free for alls. But we ARE healthy!!!! So let's do the healthy thing and hug a pal!!!!! And if the hug goes bad, take note, and hug somebody else next time! Or try it again, maybe it was a mishug and you really can have amazing hugs but that moment was just an epic fail! Don't be like me!!!! HUG HUG HUG!!!!! I've hugged today and I'm feeling GREAT! I hugged Macy all the way across campus!!! The worlds best hugger! No wonder I'm feeling good!!!! HUG!!!! HUGGING is the secret to success!!!!! But there are definitely some rules to follow to be safe!
RULES FOR SAFE HUGGING:
1.) Ask permission before hugging
2.)A hug is a gentle embrace, not a Heimlich Maneuver
3.) Be "in" the hug, don't just simply go through the motion
4.)Don't hug a creeper….enough said there
5.)Don't hug tons of boys (A classy lady is an attractive lady)
6.)Take tons of showers and add lotion and perfume and brush your teeth many times a day to make hugs enjoyable and not a nightmare
8.) HAPPY HUGGING!!!!!
"It's wondrous what a hug can do.
A hug can cheer you when you're blue.
A hug can say, "I love you so"
Or " Gee, I hate to see you go!"
A hug is "Welcome back again!"
And "Great to see you!"
Or "Where've you been?"
A hug can soothe a small child's pain
and bring a rainbow after rain.
The hug there's just no doubt about it,
we scarcely could survive without it.
A hug delights and warms and charms,
It must be why God gave us arms!"
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Saturday, January 16, 2010
*Signature Dance Move*
I never knew I had a signature dance move until now. Yesterday when I was waving my arms side to side like a Mexican Chiquita Katelind said: "You know Abby likes a song if she does her signature dance move!" Signature dance move?!?! What are you talking about?!?!?!
She laughed at me and was SHOCKED that I had no idea what she was talking about. Apparently I used to do it in high school all the time, and bring it out when a good song comes on now.I have never been made aware of this before.
In my move I take one arm and put it strait up and put my elbow on the arm that's strait across and shake my arm and my head. I know that's a really bad explanation, but it's the best I've got. But apparently it's my "signature" dance move and it is shocking that I've never known about it before. Apparently it's been making an appearance for years.
I bought a leather journal that already looks old and tattered to give me a better chance of being a historical figure one day. It already looks like an artifact and I haven't even done anything to it!!! Abby...the future historical figure in the making. Just wait and see. Actually, you won't be able to, because my fame will be far beyond our years of life. That is all. Goodnight.
She laughed at me and was SHOCKED that I had no idea what she was talking about. Apparently I used to do it in high school all the time, and bring it out when a good song comes on now.I have never been made aware of this before.
In my move I take one arm and put it strait up and put my elbow on the arm that's strait across and shake my arm and my head. I know that's a really bad explanation, but it's the best I've got. But apparently it's my "signature" dance move and it is shocking that I've never known about it before. Apparently it's been making an appearance for years.
I bought a leather journal that already looks old and tattered to give me a better chance of being a historical figure one day. It already looks like an artifact and I haven't even done anything to it!!! Abby...the future historical figure in the making. Just wait and see. Actually, you won't be able to, because my fame will be far beyond our years of life. That is all. Goodnight.
Friday, January 15, 2010
*Three's a Crowd*
There are times in a girl's single life that she is more aware of her singleness than others.You know, those moments when a girl becomes the third party, the one who makes what was a loving moment into an unwanted crowd. Well,tonight was one of those nights for me. Let me explain....
Me and Kate decided to try out the new Sushi Cafe that everyone has been raving about. We figured out why everyone is raving later from the awesome food, but also from the enormous crowd that was waiting for a seat. This place is extremely small with a ton of people crowded around the door from lack of space. The line of waiting people is really a bother to those trying to enjoy their food. I'm sure the people that got their plates sniffed while I screamed "YUM" were deeply dissatisfied with their environment. So I decided to try to move out of the way and squeeze into the middle of the restaurant as that romantic song "Baby, I'm amazed by you" came onto the loud speaker.
At that moment I looked over at Kate and she was being stared at longingly by half the men in the place. "OH, WOW!" I said out loud because of how shocked I was at the blatant eyeing of my best friend. Of course, there were no boys looking my way seeing as my hair was so frizzy I think it was touching both walls of the restaurant. I was still completely in the way, so I scooted and scooted until I ran strait into the bubble of a loving couple on a romantic date. They were in love, true love, and this date was going to prove it. "Baby, I'm amazed by you" was on the loud speaker and everything was perfect...except for one thing. As they stared into each others eyes they began to feel someone staring at them. That person was me. I was literally shoulder to shoulder with these two because of how small the wait area was. I looked awkwardly back and forth at both and said "Go on! Don't mind me!". At that point I would have started to whistle to make it a more natural moment, but I don't know how, so I was out of luck. They moved on with their moment and hugged each other close, then backed away with hands intertwined.That's when it happened. He began to tell her that he wished he could wear her clothes so he could look half as pretty as she does. SCREEEECH!!!! What did he just say?!?!
"Excuse me, Sir, but I couldn't help but overhear your conversation" I said in an amused tone. "Wear her clothes, huh?". Their romantic moment was busted. BUS-TED. I had totally ruined it. I'm sure they couldn't agree more with the saying "Three's a Crowd". I realized what I had done and quickly tried to salvage the situation... "I mean!!! That is romantic! You think she is so beautiful in her clothes and you want to be beautiful, too! AW! How wonderful!!!" Thankfully the waiter called for me and Kate to come sit!!! Talk about saving my sanity.I could have kissed that waiter for getting me out of that moment if I wasn't an upstanding girl with values and purity on the brain. I'm sure the couple felt the exact same way.
Next we sat down and the sushi maker looked at me while snickering to his friends and said "Hola Chica Bonita, Que Pasa?". He didn't expect me to know what he said, but too bad for him, he didn't realize that I am a super smart girl in Spanish II!!! "Guess what!!! I am in Spanish II and I totally know what you just said!Hey pretty girl, what's happening?! Snicker no more!" His friends started laughing at him and he got embarrassed, but I didn't mean for that to happen, I was just happy Spanish was coming in handy. And also happy that a random sushi maker might call me bonita on a night like tonight! Why was a sushi maker speaking spanish anyway?! That was actually what was going through my head at that point. And as creepy as it is for a randar man to stare and speak to me in spanish, I think the Lord knew I needed to be called bonita after the third wheel incident/watching my fit friend get all the stares. I can always count on the Spanish speaking men for a good pick me up. Gracias, chicos. That is all. Goodnight.
Me and Kate decided to try out the new Sushi Cafe that everyone has been raving about. We figured out why everyone is raving later from the awesome food, but also from the enormous crowd that was waiting for a seat. This place is extremely small with a ton of people crowded around the door from lack of space. The line of waiting people is really a bother to those trying to enjoy their food. I'm sure the people that got their plates sniffed while I screamed "YUM" were deeply dissatisfied with their environment. So I decided to try to move out of the way and squeeze into the middle of the restaurant as that romantic song "Baby, I'm amazed by you" came onto the loud speaker.
At that moment I looked over at Kate and she was being stared at longingly by half the men in the place. "OH, WOW!" I said out loud because of how shocked I was at the blatant eyeing of my best friend. Of course, there were no boys looking my way seeing as my hair was so frizzy I think it was touching both walls of the restaurant. I was still completely in the way, so I scooted and scooted until I ran strait into the bubble of a loving couple on a romantic date. They were in love, true love, and this date was going to prove it. "Baby, I'm amazed by you" was on the loud speaker and everything was perfect...except for one thing. As they stared into each others eyes they began to feel someone staring at them. That person was me. I was literally shoulder to shoulder with these two because of how small the wait area was. I looked awkwardly back and forth at both and said "Go on! Don't mind me!". At that point I would have started to whistle to make it a more natural moment, but I don't know how, so I was out of luck. They moved on with their moment and hugged each other close, then backed away with hands intertwined.That's when it happened. He began to tell her that he wished he could wear her clothes so he could look half as pretty as she does. SCREEEECH!!!! What did he just say?!?!
"Excuse me, Sir, but I couldn't help but overhear your conversation" I said in an amused tone. "Wear her clothes, huh?". Their romantic moment was busted. BUS-TED. I had totally ruined it. I'm sure they couldn't agree more with the saying "Three's a Crowd". I realized what I had done and quickly tried to salvage the situation... "I mean!!! That is romantic! You think she is so beautiful in her clothes and you want to be beautiful, too! AW! How wonderful!!!" Thankfully the waiter called for me and Kate to come sit!!! Talk about saving my sanity.I could have kissed that waiter for getting me out of that moment if I wasn't an upstanding girl with values and purity on the brain. I'm sure the couple felt the exact same way.
Next we sat down and the sushi maker looked at me while snickering to his friends and said "Hola Chica Bonita, Que Pasa?". He didn't expect me to know what he said, but too bad for him, he didn't realize that I am a super smart girl in Spanish II!!! "Guess what!!! I am in Spanish II and I totally know what you just said!Hey pretty girl, what's happening?! Snicker no more!" His friends started laughing at him and he got embarrassed, but I didn't mean for that to happen, I was just happy Spanish was coming in handy. And also happy that a random sushi maker might call me bonita on a night like tonight! Why was a sushi maker speaking spanish anyway?! That was actually what was going through my head at that point. And as creepy as it is for a randar man to stare and speak to me in spanish, I think the Lord knew I needed to be called bonita after the third wheel incident/watching my fit friend get all the stares. I can always count on the Spanish speaking men for a good pick me up. Gracias, chicos. That is all. Goodnight.
Saturday, January 9, 2010
*Ultimate Creeper*
So I walked into my house after a night with the bridesmaids to find Molly's room completely empty and quiet. It looks nothing like it used to, and all the old memories from our past came crashing down around me at once. I accidently opened one of her presents because gifts is my love language and I really needed to feel some love. I'm sure she'll understand. I hadn't been emotional at all, so it was a shock to realize that all these emotions poured out when I got home. And when I'm upset no reason comes into the picture. So I called Molly and was actually expecting her to pick up…on her honeymoon night. Am I the ultimate creeper, or am I the ultimate creeper? That is all. Goodnight.
Friday, January 8, 2010
*Twas the Night Before the Wedding*
The only way to explain how I'm feeling right now is surreal. My sister is getting married tomorrow!!! MARRIED!!!! TYING THAT KNOT!!!!! And never living in this house again! It hit me all at once when we were rehearsing for the wedding and Molly and dad came down the aisle to "Here Comes the Bride". I mean, this is it. No turning back. Things are going to change.
I talked at the rehearsal dinner tonight about our old days of pretending that our bedposts were our boyfriends and all the dreams we used to have. The days when we'd imagine in our minds who that special man would one day be. Molly is getting to see that in the flesh and watch those dreams come to pass. Although I think Weddings are much more stressful in real life than they are in our dreams. A lot more goes into it and stress has been our buddy lately. Well, I say "our", but I really mean theirs. I have not been stressed at all!!! I've just gotten a lot of fun and attention and haven't really done anything. Being the MOH is so much fun and stress free. At least for me anyway. But even though it is a stressful time, I know that she is completely in love and so happy to find that perfect man for her. They really were made for each other and God is going to bring glory to His kingdom through their marriage! I am excited to see what he has in store!!!!! Molly has gotten something much better than her bedpost…she's gotten a real live boy who follows the Lord and loves her so much! I am so excited for her!!!!!!
Me and my bedpost…we are still tight. That's about the closest thing I'll have to a boyfriend for quite sometime. But that's okay, because the Lord will show Himself faithful in my life along with Molly's. His plans are so wonderful and His timing is perfect! I feel nothing but joy for what's going to happen tomorrow!!!!! It's going to be fun!!!!!
I really hope that my hair looks good tomorrow!!! And that I don't look like a train hit me because I'm only getting like five hours of sleep! You know what's funny to me??? Girls can look so glamorous and gorgeous one second and then the next we get out of the shower with make-up running down our face and hair in a huge bun looking a crazed fool! And to get looking beautiful we all have these big curlers in our hair!!!! Not the best look. And then at the end of the day we look like a train wreck because of the make-up we use when the shower water hits it. Raccoon eyes or zombie freak show is what I see in the mirror!!! I almost screamed tonight since I used more make-up than usual. It was like creep girl walkin!!!!! ACK!!!!! GOODNIGHT!
I talked at the rehearsal dinner tonight about our old days of pretending that our bedposts were our boyfriends and all the dreams we used to have. The days when we'd imagine in our minds who that special man would one day be. Molly is getting to see that in the flesh and watch those dreams come to pass. Although I think Weddings are much more stressful in real life than they are in our dreams. A lot more goes into it and stress has been our buddy lately. Well, I say "our", but I really mean theirs. I have not been stressed at all!!! I've just gotten a lot of fun and attention and haven't really done anything. Being the MOH is so much fun and stress free. At least for me anyway. But even though it is a stressful time, I know that she is completely in love and so happy to find that perfect man for her. They really were made for each other and God is going to bring glory to His kingdom through their marriage! I am excited to see what he has in store!!!!! Molly has gotten something much better than her bedpost…she's gotten a real live boy who follows the Lord and loves her so much! I am so excited for her!!!!!!
Me and my bedpost…we are still tight. That's about the closest thing I'll have to a boyfriend for quite sometime. But that's okay, because the Lord will show Himself faithful in my life along with Molly's. His plans are so wonderful and His timing is perfect! I feel nothing but joy for what's going to happen tomorrow!!!!! It's going to be fun!!!!!
I really hope that my hair looks good tomorrow!!! And that I don't look like a train hit me because I'm only getting like five hours of sleep! You know what's funny to me??? Girls can look so glamorous and gorgeous one second and then the next we get out of the shower with make-up running down our face and hair in a huge bun looking a crazed fool! And to get looking beautiful we all have these big curlers in our hair!!!! Not the best look. And then at the end of the day we look like a train wreck because of the make-up we use when the shower water hits it. Raccoon eyes or zombie freak show is what I see in the mirror!!! I almost screamed tonight since I used more make-up than usual. It was like creep girl walkin!!!!! ACK!!!!! GOODNIGHT!
Monday, January 4, 2010
*That's a Sidewalk Dressed as a Road!!!!*
A few people have suggested that I write a post on my horror trip back from Nebraska yesterday, but it is too new to write. There hasn't been enough time that I'm laughing about it, so just wait a few days and we'll see if I get some inspiration.
Speaking of inspiration...after seeing my extremely thin cousins in their bridesmaids dresses, I have had a bout of panic and decided to exercise today. A few posts back I was talking about how I was going to exercise and eat better over the break before the wedding, but that didn't work out as planned. The plan was basically like a plane flying happily in the air only to crash and burn into the ground the next day. If the wagon is the diet I have fallen off and been run over a few times. But today I actually did do some exercising and it was quite enjoyable if I do say so myself. I have never used an ipod before when jogging..okay walking...and it really made it a lot better!!! And the cute boys on the big fam bridge were easy to run after and they even helped get my heart rate up. It's a great way to exercise. I realized that dropping a few dollars is a really good way to strike up a convo with a boy running by. Just for anyone who wants to talk to someone and doesn't know how. Not that I'm a love doctor or anything..hardly!!! But that does really work. I have a few dollars in my pocket ready to drop on the ground any time there is a need. If the guy doesn't pick it up, then he's not worth talking to anyway! Drop a few bucks and they run after you very fast. Especially the ones that are exercising. They want more reasons to run, I think.
So I exercised on the bridge for a while, then it was time to get back to the house to celebrate Logan's birthday. Since I've been on vacation I hadn't driven for a while and was kind of rusty behind the wheel. "I feel kinda funny like I've forgotten how to drive!" I told Kate on the way there. It was the strangest feeling. I missed a few turns on our way and then on our way back I completely missed the exit for the highway. Luckily I saw this road that turned around and went back onto the highway. So I confidently took a left and started driving down this extremely convenient entry road when all the sudden Katelind screamed "ABBY! THIS IS A SIDEWALK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" "NO, it isn't Katelind!!! It's an entry road!" But then once I looked a little bit closer, it WAS sort of small to be a street. Hmmm…All these cars getting on the highway were rushing past, why was this sidewalk so close to the highway?!?! That is a smart question to be asked! What were these people thinking when they paved this road here?!!! I mean…seriously?!?! It was a sidewalk dressed as a road! Could've happened to anyone! Even Einstein would've probably taken this sidewalk thinking it was an entry to the highway! I need to call authorities about this one. It's just wrong to lead the good people of America on by dressing some sidewalk up as a road by painting it black. Katelind said it was like a bike route sidewalk or something. Bike route my behind!!! That stuff is confusing.
Gotta go….I'm exercising early in the morning….I can't believe it. Let's hope the wagon doesn't run me over this time. I DID exercise today!!! Let that be put on the record. And I realize now that I have spelled exercise wrong my entire life thanks to spell check. I've never had a reason to type it before.
Speaking of inspiration...after seeing my extremely thin cousins in their bridesmaids dresses, I have had a bout of panic and decided to exercise today. A few posts back I was talking about how I was going to exercise and eat better over the break before the wedding, but that didn't work out as planned. The plan was basically like a plane flying happily in the air only to crash and burn into the ground the next day. If the wagon is the diet I have fallen off and been run over a few times. But today I actually did do some exercising and it was quite enjoyable if I do say so myself. I have never used an ipod before when jogging..okay walking...and it really made it a lot better!!! And the cute boys on the big fam bridge were easy to run after and they even helped get my heart rate up. It's a great way to exercise. I realized that dropping a few dollars is a really good way to strike up a convo with a boy running by. Just for anyone who wants to talk to someone and doesn't know how. Not that I'm a love doctor or anything..hardly!!! But that does really work. I have a few dollars in my pocket ready to drop on the ground any time there is a need. If the guy doesn't pick it up, then he's not worth talking to anyway! Drop a few bucks and they run after you very fast. Especially the ones that are exercising. They want more reasons to run, I think.
So I exercised on the bridge for a while, then it was time to get back to the house to celebrate Logan's birthday. Since I've been on vacation I hadn't driven for a while and was kind of rusty behind the wheel. "I feel kinda funny like I've forgotten how to drive!" I told Kate on the way there. It was the strangest feeling. I missed a few turns on our way and then on our way back I completely missed the exit for the highway. Luckily I saw this road that turned around and went back onto the highway. So I confidently took a left and started driving down this extremely convenient entry road when all the sudden Katelind screamed "ABBY! THIS IS A SIDEWALK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" "NO, it isn't Katelind!!! It's an entry road!" But then once I looked a little bit closer, it WAS sort of small to be a street. Hmmm…All these cars getting on the highway were rushing past, why was this sidewalk so close to the highway?!?! That is a smart question to be asked! What were these people thinking when they paved this road here?!!! I mean…seriously?!?! It was a sidewalk dressed as a road! Could've happened to anyone! Even Einstein would've probably taken this sidewalk thinking it was an entry to the highway! I need to call authorities about this one. It's just wrong to lead the good people of America on by dressing some sidewalk up as a road by painting it black. Katelind said it was like a bike route sidewalk or something. Bike route my behind!!! That stuff is confusing.
Gotta go….I'm exercising early in the morning….I can't believe it. Let's hope the wagon doesn't run me over this time. I DID exercise today!!! Let that be put on the record. And I realize now that I have spelled exercise wrong my entire life thanks to spell check. I've never had a reason to type it before.
Friday, January 1, 2010
*Forget the Plan*
2010 is a year that I've been thinking about for a while now. When I was little I would do the math to see when I'd graduate and my life would "begin". I knew that by 2010 I would be married to the most incredible man on the planet and everything would be paved just as I had imagined. I would graduate and live in the white house with the red door that I've looked at for years. I'd have a baby girl on the way named Annabelle and everything would be sunshines and rainbows. I know that sounds crazy, but I come from a family who marries REALLY early. Now that I'm actually entering the year 2010, I realize how immature my thinking was. I have a letter that I wrote to myself when I was eleven year old that proves my point:
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Dear Future Abby,
I am sure by now you are married to a really wonderful man, so tell him hello for me. Is Annabelle on the way? Don't forget to put big bows in her hair! I hope that you are beautiful and have lots of friends. Do you still like Nsync? Do you have a lot of clothes? I sure hope that everyone loves you! You are awesome!!!!!!
Love,
Past Abby
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I had a plan for my life. I had no doubts about that plan. I knew that when that plan came to pass my life would finally "start". Now I realize that holding onto something so hard is the best way to lose it. And losing my life has been the best thing that ever happened to me. Losing my dreams so many times has brought so much good in my life. Every hope lost has somehow come together to make for an even bigger hope. Everytime Satan has tried to take me down, it's only brought me further to the heart of my Jesus. Taking this trip to Nebraska has really been a great experience for me. God has opened my eyes to some of His truths and given me so much hope and joy. Just because my life isn't turning out the way I planned does not mean that I am not blessed beyond measure. The Lord has been SO good to me, even in the hard times!!! I learn so much about the heart of God when going through a storm. I have learned to trust God no matter what because He knows much better than I do!!!! Just because I see a certain situation from a human view does not give me a right to critisize it.
It's amazing how much different my mindset is and how things that were once so important to me have become less important. Sure, every girl wants to feel beautiful and loved and marry the man of their dreams, but over time I've realized where my true dreams are found. My true dreams are found when I submit to the will of my Heavenly Father and not find my worth in beauty or the love of others. My Father accepts me as His own, and I am a chosen daughter of the King who will one day dance in pretty princess dresses for all eternity with my perfect prince. But Heaven is not the only gift we receive! My Father talks in the bible about how He loves to give His children good gifts. He loves to see us smile and bring us joy. But I've realized that sometimes the gifts we need are different than the gifts we want. The Lord knows that sometimes if He gives us what we ask for it will ruin us. He loves us too much for that!!! Have you ever thought that even something that hurts at the time may be a gift from above? Next time you are going through a hardship, look at it that way! What gift is the Lord bringing out of that? He promises to work together for the good of those who love Him. Think about all the good He is going to do!!!! And sometimes when it alligns with the will of God, we may get something we've always wanted. But when we hold on too hard to those blessings WE.WILL.FAIL. Hold onto the blessings lightly. Trust God if He decides to take them away. Enjoy them while they last, and do not become bitter if they leave. God knows BEST. TRUST HIM!!!! Even when your emotions are screaming for you to become bitter! One of the best sacrifices we can give is being thankful everyday no matter what is going on!!! Thank Him! Thanking Him is such a gift in itself!!! It brings so much peace.
He is God, and I am not. I want this year to be a year where everyday I wake up and say "God, YOUR will NOT mine!". I'm done chasing dreams that have no foundation. The only way that dreams like that can have a firm foundation is if Christ is the foundation beneath them. If Christ comes first and faith and trust run rampid that's when those dreams can become blessings and help promote the Kingdom of God. Because a big purpose of my future family will be to raise children who draw people to the heart of God. Raise children who fear the Lord and bring glory to His name! It's not about the "happiness" it brings. It's not about feeling worthy of love because someone has finally said yes. It's not about getting our own desires met. It's about learning how to be selfless and becoming holy through putting others before ourselves. The core foundation is to praise the Father through the family. I am so thankful that my life is not what I wanted it to be. Because I want my life to be exactly what the Lord wants!!! And right now He wants me in school another year working my tail off!!! And sometimes being so busy with school is lonely. But that's where I am, and God has His reasons!!!! He is GOOD!!!! His love endures forever!!!!!!! Reguardless of if I get what I think I want. Forget the plan. God's got it under control. :)
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Dear Future Abby,
I am sure by now you are married to a really wonderful man, so tell him hello for me. Is Annabelle on the way? Don't forget to put big bows in her hair! I hope that you are beautiful and have lots of friends. Do you still like Nsync? Do you have a lot of clothes? I sure hope that everyone loves you! You are awesome!!!!!!
Love,
Past Abby
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I had a plan for my life. I had no doubts about that plan. I knew that when that plan came to pass my life would finally "start". Now I realize that holding onto something so hard is the best way to lose it. And losing my life has been the best thing that ever happened to me. Losing my dreams so many times has brought so much good in my life. Every hope lost has somehow come together to make for an even bigger hope. Everytime Satan has tried to take me down, it's only brought me further to the heart of my Jesus. Taking this trip to Nebraska has really been a great experience for me. God has opened my eyes to some of His truths and given me so much hope and joy. Just because my life isn't turning out the way I planned does not mean that I am not blessed beyond measure. The Lord has been SO good to me, even in the hard times!!! I learn so much about the heart of God when going through a storm. I have learned to trust God no matter what because He knows much better than I do!!!! Just because I see a certain situation from a human view does not give me a right to critisize it.
It's amazing how much different my mindset is and how things that were once so important to me have become less important. Sure, every girl wants to feel beautiful and loved and marry the man of their dreams, but over time I've realized where my true dreams are found. My true dreams are found when I submit to the will of my Heavenly Father and not find my worth in beauty or the love of others. My Father accepts me as His own, and I am a chosen daughter of the King who will one day dance in pretty princess dresses for all eternity with my perfect prince. But Heaven is not the only gift we receive! My Father talks in the bible about how He loves to give His children good gifts. He loves to see us smile and bring us joy. But I've realized that sometimes the gifts we need are different than the gifts we want. The Lord knows that sometimes if He gives us what we ask for it will ruin us. He loves us too much for that!!! Have you ever thought that even something that hurts at the time may be a gift from above? Next time you are going through a hardship, look at it that way! What gift is the Lord bringing out of that? He promises to work together for the good of those who love Him. Think about all the good He is going to do!!!! And sometimes when it alligns with the will of God, we may get something we've always wanted. But when we hold on too hard to those blessings WE.WILL.FAIL. Hold onto the blessings lightly. Trust God if He decides to take them away. Enjoy them while they last, and do not become bitter if they leave. God knows BEST. TRUST HIM!!!! Even when your emotions are screaming for you to become bitter! One of the best sacrifices we can give is being thankful everyday no matter what is going on!!! Thank Him! Thanking Him is such a gift in itself!!! It brings so much peace.
He is God, and I am not. I want this year to be a year where everyday I wake up and say "God, YOUR will NOT mine!". I'm done chasing dreams that have no foundation. The only way that dreams like that can have a firm foundation is if Christ is the foundation beneath them. If Christ comes first and faith and trust run rampid that's when those dreams can become blessings and help promote the Kingdom of God. Because a big purpose of my future family will be to raise children who draw people to the heart of God. Raise children who fear the Lord and bring glory to His name! It's not about the "happiness" it brings. It's not about feeling worthy of love because someone has finally said yes. It's not about getting our own desires met. It's about learning how to be selfless and becoming holy through putting others before ourselves. The core foundation is to praise the Father through the family. I am so thankful that my life is not what I wanted it to be. Because I want my life to be exactly what the Lord wants!!! And right now He wants me in school another year working my tail off!!! And sometimes being so busy with school is lonely. But that's where I am, and God has His reasons!!!! He is GOOD!!!! His love endures forever!!!!!!! Reguardless of if I get what I think I want. Forget the plan. God's got it under control. :)
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